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The Magic of Getting What You Want is an excellent treatise on the subject of dealing with people. Dr. Schwartz writes in a manner which is direct and easy to understand--a must for writers of self-help books. The concepts are simple. Treat people with kindness, understanding, and assertion, and you will get more of what you want. You will be surprised at the effect a smile has on other people. Dr Schwartz may have written this book over 20 years ago, but his message transends decades. Easy to swallow snippets of examples in how to improve one's life never grow old. Millions of people throughout the world have improved their lives by reading books by Dr. David J. Schwartz, long regarded as one of the foremost experts on motivation, whose teachings will will help you sell better, manage better, earn more money, and -- most important of all -- find greater happiness and peace of mind. In the long-awaited follow-up to THE MAGIC OF THINKING BIG, Dr. Schwartz has made available his personal formula for success. • Thinking more is your key to personal prosperity and enjoyment • Decide now to go for your own Utopia and enjoy the best this life offers. • Decide to scale up, not scale down • Solve budget problems by discovering how to earn more, not cut back • Seek out Dream Builders—avoid Dream Destroyers PUT THE DREAM PROCESS IN
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Contents Think More About Having More Look Again: You Can Make Yourself Even More A-OK How to Get Others to Help You Win! Feed Your Mind Success-Producing Information and Prosper Want More? Then Give More How to Influence Others to Get More of What You Want Use the A.S.K. Formula to Get More How to Win Influence Through Charisma and Commitment How to Come Back to Life and Enjoy It More How to Profit from Persistent Patience Make a New Beginning "This is magic that really works. David Schwartz is one of our most creative and effective motivational thinkers today." —Denis Waitley, author of THE PSYCHOLOGY OF WINNING and SEEDS OF GREATNESS "David Schwartz has done it again! Those who Dr. Schwartz taught to THINK BIG... can now put their thoughts into action and really GET WHAT THEY WANT. It has already helped me as it will help millions of others." —"Kirk" Kirkpatrick, Kirkpatrick Associates "The message is clear and inspiring! It isn't what's wrong with me—simply what I need to learn or adjust in my life to accomplish what I want:' —John W. Evans, John Evans & Associates, Inc. "Everyone, from relatives to news media, tries to tell us WHAT to think. David Schwartz tells us HOW to think and how to put our thoughts into action to get what we want. His advice works." —Eudora Rogers "The Magic of Creative Dreaming is that it really helps you get what you want!"—Spencer Johnson, M.D., author of THE ONE MINUTE MANAGER and THE PRECIOUS PRESENT Chapter 1
Think
More About Having More Think
about it. Every challenge we face can be solved by a dream. Let me
explain. Consider
for a moment what you want. Chances are you want more money so you can
enjoy
more of the good things this life can offer — a nicer home, more
respect on
and off the job, more love, more vacations more plain old-fashioned
happiness. You want
to do more for your mate, share more good times, build more financial
security,
enjoy more time together. You want more years to live, better
health. You want
to give more to your children — more good education, more cultural
advantages,
more opportunities to excel and be the best they can be. The dream
of thinking more is the key to your personal prosperity and
enthusiasm for
life. It is also the answer to making mankind better and healthier, and
to
building an economy of plenty. Farmers who want to earn more money
figure out
ways to get more bushels of grain per acre, more eggs per chicken, more
milk
per cow. Successful manufacturers continually search for ways to
produce more
per employee, more per hour, and more with less raw material. Thinking more is even the best
answer to crime. As some people
state so well, it is not the love of money but the lack of money that
is the
root of evil. People who learn how easy and self-fulfilling it is to
earn more
in any one of a thousand ways are not candidates for the courts and
penitentiaries. Decide to Go
for Utopia Utopia
means the perfect place where there is love, health, peace, wealth, and
happiness — a land beyond description. Most people believe we
cannot find or
create Utopia on earth. In fact, the word Utopia, coined by
Sir Thomas
More, comes from two Greek words which, combined, mean "no place." Utopia is
beyond the reach of our society until we overcome the obstacles that
stand in
our way. And what are these obstacles? Negativism, fear, depression,
and the
problems they create — discouragement, economic stag-nation, crime,
drug
dependency, family distrust, and many more. Some argue that we are moving
away from Utopia at a rapid rate.
Each decade we set new records for drug and alcohol abuse, divorce,
murder,
rape, suicide, and a host of other problems, which suggests that
society is
getting worse, not better. Now Utopia
may be beyond the reach of an entire society. But you are not an
entire
society. You, as an individual or as a family, can come very close
indeed to
achieving your Utopia. Let me
describe a couple of people determined to create their own Utopia who
are
making real progress. How an
Immigrant Is Building a Cab Company Recently,
I was in an Atlanta suburb during rush hour and needed a cab. Finally,
one
stopped and I got in. The cab was very clean but very old — a
twenty-year old
Cadillac. The driver said, "Good evening, sir, where may I take
you?" I told him where I wanted to go and then I said, "You're from
Jamaica, aren't you?" He glanced
quickly at me and said, "Why, yes, I am, but how did you know?" "I
get to Jamaica frequently," I explained, "and your accent is
unmistakably Jamaican. I love it." We drove
through the traffic for a few minutes without speaking, and then the
driver
said very affirmatively, "This my cab. I own it. I am in business for
myself. Soon I will own two cabs. My dream is to own twenty cabs." I said,
"Great. I'm always glad to meet an entrepreneur. How long have you
lived
in the United States?" "Eleven
months," he replied. "When I got to this country, I had two hundred
dollars, and already I have my own business." My mind immediately reflected
on a newspaper headline I'd seen
while waiting for the cab. It said "9,200,000 People Are Unemployed."
I thought to myself: How could this fellow who is in a strange, new
environment
have a successful business when a staggering number of people who were
born and
educated here are unemployed? "You're
a remarkable fellow," I said. "You must work very hard." "Oh,
no, sir," he replied. "This isn't work. I like what I'm doing. You
see, the profits all come to me, not to a boss or some big company. As
you
said, I am an entrepreneur, and someday I will enjoy a very good
life." After he
dropped me off, I thought: Here is a fellow who appreciates what the
system has
to offer and is giving it his best. He may not reach his own
Utopia, but he is
going to come awfully close. Going
Into Business for Herself Put "That Utopian Spirit" Into Jan Fortunately,
there is a wave of new converts to utopianism among your neighbors and
mine.
These people are discovering that a much better, happier, and more
financially
rewarding life is within reach. Let me tell you about Jan. For many
years, I have presented a seminar on "Self-direction for Personal
Growth," here and in foreign countries. The people who attend come from
the big corporations, small businesses, government agencies — all
walks of
life. One day, in the O'Hare Airport in Chicago, I met a woman who
had
attended my seminar in Washington, D.C. As I walked through a corridor,
I heard someone call my name. I
looked around, saw no one I knew, and kept on walking. Then I heard
someone
calling my name again. I stopped, looked again. I saw an attractive
woman running
down the corridor smiling and waving at me. In a few
seconds, she grabbed my arm and said, "Dr. Schwartz, how are you?" I
replied, "I'm great, how are you?" She said, "I'm fantastic.
It's so good to see you again." Then, as we continued walking, I said,
"I'm sorry, but I don't remember meeting you." (I've learned it's
usually best to admit not knowing someone who knows you.) "Well,"
she answered, "we've never met face-to-face, but I took your
self-direction seminar in Washington four years ago. It changed my
life! My
name is Jan F. Do you have time for coffee?" I said,
"Sure. I've got an hour before my flight to San Francisco." "Good,"
she said. "I've got ninety minutes until my flight departs." Jan soon
told me that she was in business for herself. I asked her to tell me
about it. "Well,
I had acquired a lot of background about the Social Security system in
my ten
years in the agency. I saw a need to provide a service to businesses
advising
them on how they could reduce Social Security costs. In my years with
Social
Security, I learned that some businesses were paying more Social
Security
taxes than are legally required. "For
the next six months following your seminar," Jan went on, "after
work, I devoted every evening and weekend to deciding what specific
money-saving services I could offer and how I could best market them." "I
decided to market my services initially to trade associations,
because they
represent many businesses and are eager to present money-saving ideas
to their
members," Jan continued. "I quit working for Social
Security just three years ago
yesterday." "I'm
eager to know how you're doing," I asked. "You certainly look happy
and prosperous." "I am
happy and I am prospering," she emphasized. "I'm happy because I love
what I'm doing. I often
work seventy hours a week, but work isn't 'work' anymore. It's fun. I'm
traveling all over meeting other people who also enjoy what they do. "And
I'm well into six figures a year already, although I've barely made a
dent in
the potential market for my services. I've got four people working with
me now,
and I give each of them a piece of the action because I want them to
put forth
their very best efforts, too. And it's working. When compensation is based on performance, people just
plain do better." "But
wasn't it hard to break away from Social Security?" I asked. "I
confess it took courage to break away," Jan replied. "I was giving up
security, and the pay wasn't all that bad. On top of that, I was saying
good-bye to a routine I understood. I knew my job. But as I evaluated
my situation,
I asked myself some sobering questions. I still keep them in my
briefcase." Jan handed
me her questions. Here they
are: 1. What
was the fixed routine doing to my ambition? Would I be happy at the end
of my
career knowing that I had never really tested myself to see what I
could
create? 2. What
were the people I associated with day in and day out doing to my
overall
attitudes? What damage was being done to my mind by hearing the same
complaints
about how unfair the system is, why so-and-so should not have been
promoted,
and the petty talk at coffee breaks and lunch? 3. To whom
did I owe the bigger obligation — to myself or to the organization? 4. Was I really enjoying my
free time? Could my free time be
better spent? I told Jan
I'd like to have a copy of her questions for use in my work. She
agreed, and
immediately went to a copy machine and returned with a copy for me. Soon the
hour was almost up and I had to hurry to catch my plane. The
conversation with
Jan had reinforced my view that thinking more is magnificent and
the trip to
Utopia is exciting. How to
Profit by Writing Your Obituary An
obituary is supposed to be a brief history of a person's life.
Usually, it
gives only the barest details, such as date and place of birth, main
accomplishments, occupation, and next of kin. For
obvious reasons, most people do not like to write their obituaries.
Nevertheless, I've turned obituary writing into a success-building
concept for
use in seminars for managers. Here's how
it works. I ask the managers to write a summary of where they have been
to date
in their lives — with added information about family, friends, work,
and
finances. Then I ask them to write projected versions of the rest of
their
lives based on past performances. I've learned that our past behavior
is a good
indicator of where we are headed unless we take positive corrective
actions. The
obituary idea works. Let me give you one example. Just after
taking off on a
flight from Chicago to New York recently, a man in the aisle seat
across from
me said, "Pardon me, are you Dr. Schwartz?" I smiled and replied,
"I was when I got up this morning." The fellow introduced himself
and said, "Well, I remember
you from a seminar you conducted six years ago. In particular, I
remember that
overnight assignment, the "'write your own obituary'" exercise. At
the time, I thought the idea was stupid, but I went along with it. It
changed
my life." "Tell
me how," I said. "Well,"
my friend began, "looking back on my life and what I had done with it
made
me mad at myself. I was thirty-nine at the time, and in writing my
obituary, I had
to admit to myself certain negatives in my life. I realized I
wasn't giving my
wife and two kids as much attention as they deserved and needed.
Most of my
friends were depressing — the 'everything is bad and getting rapidly
worse'
types." "What
about work and finances?" I asked. "My
analysis of my accomplishments in my work were really negative," my
friend
continued. "I'm an engineer, and if I had applied myself, I would have
been a partner in the firm. But I didn't. And in the money department,
I had
accumulated little more than some equity in our home." "Once
you had analyzed your life history to that point, what did you do?" I
asked. "You'll
recall that the obituary exercise you assigned asked us to project the
future
based on the past unless we took positive corrective action. The only
conclusion I could reach was that my life and the lives of people close
to me
would only become increasingly miserable down the road. So, immediately
on
returning home from the seminar, I decided to take some of that
positive corrective
action, and it worked. I paid more attention to my family and our
relationship
now is great. I developed new friends — positive types. I began to
apply myself
at work and now I am a partner, and as for my finances, I'm doing very,
very
well." After we parted in the airport,
I thought to myself: None of us
can change the past. But we can change the future when we take positive
corrective action. Success does begin with a dream of more. Poverty
Is Poor People Who Lack a Dynamic Dream It is no
disgrace to be poor, but not having money, resenting the fact that
some other
people do, and having no concrete dream for improving one's
circumstances is
totally deflating. To state
it differently, there are two kinds of poor people: individuals
with little
money and no hope for acquiring it, and individuals with little
financial
wherewithal but who have a dream for making it. Many
parents discourage their children from trying to find the really good
life on
the grounds that it's impossible, so they should be content to
settle for an
ordinary job and the average existence it provides. These parents don't
tell
their children that every rich family was, in this generation or in a
past
generation, poor. Huge, prosperous
businesses such as McDonald's, Ford, Kentucky Fried Chicken, and Amway
were
started by people with very little capital. Furthermore, Presidents
Coolidge,
Hoover, Truman, Eisenhower, Johnson, Nixon, Ford, Carter, and Reagan —
all
except two of the people who led the nation in modern times — were born
to poor
or modestly well-off parents. Presidents Roosevelt and Kennedy were the
only
exceptions. Thought
Leaders Tell Us to Think Less — Not More The people who shape the
thinking for most of us claim that times
are bad and getting worse, society is about to collapse, war is a
certainty,
crime will only increase, and new exotic diseases will get us sooner or
later. Many
thought leaders — teachers, economists, editorial writers, novelists,
critics,
politicians, and planners — specialize in spreading the bad news.
Teachers
tell students to seek jobs that offer security and good fringe
benefits — not
jobs that spell opportunity and reward based on performance.
Many economists forecast economic collapse
and urge us to fill our basements or rent a mini-warehouse and stock it
with
nonperishable food; editorial writers and critics find fault with
most
proposals that would make life better; and politicians specialize in promising us something for
nothing. None of us
can control society or the economy. But each of us can determine our
own
destiny, our own economic condition, and our own happiness. How to
achieve
control over what happens to us is the central message of this book.
Follow the
guidelines and watch good things happen! Decide
to Scale Up, Not Scale Down For the
better part of a generation, proponents of negative thought have
been telling
us to cut back — to be satisfied with miniature housing units, cars
built for
dwarfs, near-frigid in-home temperatures in the winter and
sweat-producing
temperatures in the summer. In brief,
they've been saying we're running out of energy, living space,
resources, and
money. They tell us to "learn to enjoy a lower standard of living,
because
the good life is behind us." These prophets of gloom even
make it sound patriotic to do with
less. Carried to the extreme, these do-with-less folks would soon have
us
living five to a room and would allot us the Russian housing standard
of one
hundred square feet per person. Recently,
I read one of those back-to-the-cave essays in Time. Part of
the
conclusion to the article stated, "The current construction of their
housing may make some Americans claustrophobic, but cross-cultural
comparison
might also remind them to be grateful for what they have." In
other words, despite how unhappy you may be with your dwelling unit, be
happy
because it's better than a house in some economically
underdeveloped nation. Such a
view is nonsense. It is of little comfort to a sick person to learn
that he or
she is not as sick as someone else. Worse, it helps lower our standard
of
living, because it reduces the size of our thinking. Fortunately,
there are still some of us who are determined to use all the skill
and all the
belief we have in the better life and fight the live-in-a-hut
mentality. Interestingly,
facing the "downsize the American dream" essay in Time was
a
full-color ad by Oldsmobile. The ad pictured a full-sized Oldsmobile
and began
with this statement: "Families deserve the nicer things in life,
too." The
advertisement went on to describe how luxurious, roomy, and comfortable
the car
is. Besides
showing a beautiful automobile, the ad also pictured a fine home, not a
mansion
but a very nice house, one that could be owned by anyone who makes a
commitment
to thinking more, not less. To me, the contrast between the
do-with-less-and-like-it essay and
the beautiful ad stressing the good life gives us a choice. Do we want
to
settle in, accept the monotonous, go-nowhere life? Or do we choose
to think
more and enjoy our life to the maximum? Think
More — Not Less — to Solve Budget Problems Today, all
over the world, individuals, couples, companies, and governments
are trying to
solve budget problems. The basic problem is always the same. People
spend more
than they take in as income. Nearly
always the solution people find to a budget problem is the same — and
wrong.
Consider this conversation between Jane and Bill. Jane:
"We're falling way behind in our monthly payments. We've simply
got to
cut down on our spending." Bill:
"You're right. But where?" Jane:
"Well, we can stop going out on weekends. And we can cancel the
vacation
we've planned. Maybe we can find a way to reduce the fuel bills. And
you call
your mother a lot long distance." On and on
it goes. Balance the budget by thinking less, cutting back, denying
yourself
what you want. There is
no harm in "Waste not, want not," but thinking in terms of less is
not the solution. Recently, I was in a savings and loan bank. The bank
was
giving away a packet of twelve brochures on how to improve your fiscal
fitness.
I took them home and examined them. Each brochure told the reader
how to save
money by doing with less — less food, less heat, fewer auto expenses,
cheaper
education for the kids. Not one of
those pamphlets suggested one idea about how to make more money to
solve a
budget problem and create financial independence! Some
corporate managers follow the same procedure as Bill and Jane. Mr. Squeakie: "Sir, we can cut
out our training program. It
won't pay off for at least two years." Mr. Miser:
"And let's cut way back on research and development. Nobody knows for
sure
if that new product we're designing will make money." Mr.
Tightwad: "We should give up paying the bonuses this year. After all,
we
pay enough in salaries. Why spoil our people with extra compensation?" Now a
progressive company dedicated to the concept of more will figure out
ways to
increase revenue so the budget is not only balanced, but a profit
results. Concentrate
on earning more, not on stretching your income to the point that you
are denied
what you want. One fellow
explained his budget problem to me this way. He said, "I was spending
at
least ten hours a week trying to figure out ways to cut back, skimp,
and somehow
get by on my income. And I was losing two hours or more every night
lying in
bed worrying about how badly off I was and what would happen to my
family and
me. "Then
I got my head turned around. I got a part-time job and now it is paying
almost
as much as my regular job. I have almost doubled my income in six
months and
I'm a whole lot happier and I'm enjoying life far more." Seek
Out Dream Builders — Avoid the Dream Destroyers For decades, I have had the
privilege of meeting and observing at
close range thousands of people from amazingly different
backgrounds. Some
were well educated in the
academic sense; some had almost no formal education. Some came
from wealthy
families, while others were products of poverty. The people I have met
represented
hundreds of occupations, many nationalities, and a variety of personal
philosophies. A minority of the people I met were highly successful in
earning
money, rearing families, and winning respect. The majority were not. Why? After
a lot of study, I reached these conclusions. The minority who make it,
the
doers, the winners, develop big dreams and seek out people who
encourage them
in pursuit of their goals. Meanwhile, the majority who are wasting
their lives
either have no meaningful dreams or, if they do, they surround
themselves with
dream destroyers, people who laugh at them for thinking big, people who
have
"proof the dream is unattainable. Let's
examine the most common dream destroyers and consider how you can cope
with
them if you want to reap the rewards of thinking more. Dream
Destroyer #1: You don't have enough education. Education
up to a point is useful and necessary for many occupations. But to
believe that
more formal education is a guarantee of advancement, money, and
peace of mind
is foolish. Some of the people who head America's five hundred
largest
corporations never went to college. Meanwhile, many who received
advanced
degrees are employed as modestly paid corporate hired hands. Education
correlates poorly with success. I made a study of twenty-one of my
former
students who are now worth at least a million dollars — all self-made.
Sixteen
of them finished college with a C average (the same average
President
Eisenhower earned at West Point) and five earned a B average; not one
graduated
with an A average. A lot of
talented people are held back by folks who keep preaching, "Get more
formal education." It is significant, I think, that many
successful
journalists and writers did not study writing in a formal sense. Nor
did all
successful artists study painting, nor did all successful actors study
acting
in college. Think twice before you accept
the advice, "Go back to school
and study some more." Dream
Destroyer #2: You don't have enough capital to start your own business.
Not since
the early part of the twentieth
century have so many people dreamed of owning
their own businesses. And never before have so many
would-be entrepreneurs
had their dreams shattered by people who told them, "You haven't
got
enough money. Forget your idea." Not having
enough capital is an excuse created by people who themselves lack
the power to
dream, to use their imagination creatively. A young woman came to me
three
years ago to ask for help. Her dream was to make and market a line of
fine
blouses. She explained to me that after talking to an accountant and a
representative of the Small Business Administration, she had learned
the
minimum initial capital required would be between $150,000 and $200,000. "Dr.
Schwartz," she said, "there is no way I can come up with that much
money." "How
much capital do you have?" I asked. "About
five thousand dollars," she replied. "Okay,"
I said, "if your dream is firmly in place, you can start a blouse
business
with five thousand dollars." I then explained how she could contract
with
a garment manufacturer to make a sample line for little capital and how
she
could market the blouse samples through agents who would work on a
straight
commission. To make a
fascinating story short, in just three years she has turned her dream
into a
five-million-dollar-a-year business. And her dream is expanding. Her
goal for
three years from now is to run a fifty-million-dollar-a-year enterprise. Even more spectacular is the
experience of a good friend of mine.
A decade ago, he was deep in debt and even deeper in despair. Then
someone
persuaded him to get in the Amway business because he could make an
extra sixty
dollars per month that would help supplement his schoolteacher's
salary. With
less than a hundred-dollar investment, he got into the business. Did he
succeed?
Well, last summer he moved into a magnificent, custom-designed,
twenty-room
house. He enjoys trips all over the world and is watching his success
grow! Next time
someone tells you, "You don't have enough capital," get advice from a
dream builder, not a dream destroyer. Dream
Destroyer #3: You're a dreamer. You've got to be realistic in this
world. Chances
are you've heard this dream buster
many times. But analyze it. Everything begins with a dream. Every
business,
every building, highway, school, church, house — everything, absolutely
everything, is a dream before it becomes a reality. Super-cautious
people never
achieve because they are afraid to dream about what they want to
accomplish. Suppose
Wernher von Braun had listened to the people who laughed at his
ambitions to
put men on the moon? Or suppose Henry Ford had followed the counsel of
his
closest associates and not tried to build a car everyone could
afford? Dreams
come in all sizes and types. Many people are unable to dream of
overcoming a
serious ailment. And they don't. Others with the same problem dream
they can
and health returns. Some people in very ordinary jobs can't visualize
themselves as moving into management. And they don't. Other
ordinary workers
see themselves as some day occupying key jobs and they do. You see,
when life is boiled down to its essentials, we find that dreams are the
raw
material of reality. Next time someone tells you
that you are foolish to dream, analyze
that person, and you'll probably find that he or she is mediocre,
achieving
next to nothing, un-admired, and not the kind of person you would like
to be. Now we all
need advice. But accept it only from people who believe in the
miraculous
power of dreams. Dream
Destroyer #4: The field is overcrowded. There's too much competition. Suppose you decide to go into
business or
enter a profession. Odds are many people around you will say to you,
"Look, the field is overcrowded and the failure rate is very high.
Don't
do it." The
restaurant business is often described as being overcrowded, with one
of the
highest failure rates of any kind of business. But a young friend of
mine,
after escaping from Russia, didn't know this. He dreamed of making
a fortune
in the United States. But how? Well, Isaac knew something about the
restaurant
business. So, with his
meager savings, he opened up a sandwich shop. Between eleven A.M. and three P.M. he does a great
business. Now he is in the process of
opening three more sandwich shops. His dream is to sell more sandwiches
and
companion items than anyone else in the city. His goal of making a
million
dollars within two years is assured. And he's only been in the
United States
three years! Another
young man I met about five years ago came to me with a problem. He
said,
"Dr. Schwartz, I want to be a lawyer, but my family, my friends, and
the
counseling service all tell me I'd be a fool to become a lawyer.
The field is
absolutely overcrowded. We have more lawyers per thousand people
than any
other nation." I agreed
with him that we do have a surplus of people who are authorized to
practice
law. Then I asked him, "Do you really want to practice law?" He
replied, "More than anything else. I want to be a top-notch
lawyer. But I
can only afford to go to a night law school, since I've got three kids
to
support." I assured him that graduates of
"name" law schools get
the jobs in the prestigious law firms, but they don't necessarily make
the best
lawyers. My friend was surprised to learn that most of the members
of the
United States Supreme Court graduated from very ordinary,
virtually unknown
law schools. My friend
put action behind his dream. And he's now moving rapidly to make that
dream
come true. Dream
Destroyer #5: You
haven't got the time. There are many opportunities for people to
develop
sideline ventures in their spare time — ventures that can make money,
produce a
lot of fun, and do not in any way interfere with a person's
regular
employment. But again, when you discuss your dream of making several
thousand
dollars a year more, your dream-destroying friends will tell you, among
other
negatives, that you don't have time. Let me tell
you about Jim and Alice and how they found time to create a highly
profitable
part-time business. Jim worked in a bank and Alice operated a word
processor
in an insurance company. They had a chance to set up their own
business. Jim
and Alice came to see me to learn how they might find more time. Here
were the
five suggestions I made: 1. Limit
your television viewing to thirty minutes a day. They had been
averaging three
and a half hours, so this
freed up eighteen hours in a six-day week. 2. Stop
the daily newspaper. You won't miss it after a week. Another thirty
minutes per
day saved, or three hours per week. 3. Cut
back on your sleep time by thirty minutes per night. Most people,
especially
when bored, oversleep. 4. Arrange
with your managers at work to let you cut your lunch period from sixty
minutes
to thirty minutes so you can go home thirty minutes early. Over five
days, this
meant two and a half hours. 5. Cut out those "friends" who insist on calling you several times a
week to complain about how awful the economy is, how badly they are
treated at
work, and how terrible they feel. This produced savings of one and a
half hours
per week. The net
result was that Jim and Alice each found twenty-eight and a half extra
hours
per week. Plenty of time to operate their part-time business. Their
dream of
true financial independence is coming true because they did not let the
"you don't have time" people destroy their goal. As an
aside, I am appalled at how much time and how much physical and moral
damage is
done by the relatively new American institution known as the
"happy
hour." Some people spend fifteen hours a week getting smashed and
wasting
time in bars. Just think what these people could do if they put those
hours,
and dollars, to a good purpose! The
Mack-the-time dream destroyer is self-imposed. We tell ourselves we are
too
busy. Well, everyone lives exactly 1,440 minutes every 24 hours. Each
of us
decides whether to use our time productively or waste it. Dream
Destroyer #6: But
the
economy is bad. This is an
old standby excuse for not starting a new venture, changing jobs, or
making an
investment. Most people use it, and most people suffer because they do.
To be
sure, a capitalistic economy has its ups and downs. There has never
been a time
when all stocks, bonds, real estate, or other investments all went
up or down
in price. Look at it
this way, the economy is always selectively good. There are always some
excellent investments. But most investors don't understand this. Two
mistakes
they make are (1) they buy when everyone else is buying, and (2) they
sell when
everyone else is selling. Only a minority of investors
make a lot of money, because only a
few have the stamina to avoid the herd instinct. Joseph Kennedy, father
of
President Kennedy, was a classic example. During the 1930's, when the
nation's
economy was in ruins, Mr. Kennedy increased his net worth more than 800
percent! Very simply, he knew that when people were frantically
selling, that
signaled a time to buy, and when they began to buy with undue
enthusiasm, that
was a time for him to sell. Mr.
Kennedy had deep-seated faith in our economic system. When the economy
recovered — as it always does — he was ready. If you are
over age thirty, take a few minutes to review the economic
performance of the
people you knew well in high school. Chances are a few of them are on
their way
to financial independence. They're the ones who see the economy as
always being
selectively good. But most of your friends arc probably just getting
by. They're
the ones who believe the awful headlines that tell people to surrender,
give
up, not take any risks, and be resigned that even worse economic times
are a
certainty. Be a
believer in the system or be a disbeliever. It's your choice. But keep
this in
mind. For decades, a few people have gotten rich by injecting economic
fear
into the minds of the masses. For my
part, I choose to side with the small minority who know the free world
is on
the threshold of a truly golden age. Five
Steps for Creative Dreaming Most people who dream don't
really dream. They may have needs,
wants, and desires, but they don't follow the dream procedures that
work. Here
they are: Step 1: Answer three basic
questions about yourself. A wise old professor of mine at
the University
of Nebraska built an entire course in philosophy around having his
students
answer three critically important questions: (a)
Who am
I? That is, what interests do I have? What special
talents? What gives me the most joy? Answering the
"who am I" question tells you what special assets and capabilities
you have. I had a group of success-searching people answer this
question
recently, and the results were amazingly diverse. Some folks discovered
they
were loners and preferred to be around few other people. Others learned
they
were highly extroverted and needed to be with other people as much as
possible.
Some people learned that they preferred working with their hands.
Others
preferred working with their heads. Each of us is unique. Knowing who
you are
is essential to answering the second question: (b)
Where do I want to go? An
overwhelming majority of people you
know have at
best only a vague idea of why
they are alive or where they are headed. If you want to have your eyes
opened
and learn the truth of this statement, do a little experiment. It's
also a lot
of fun. Here's the experiment: Find a clipboard. This makes
you look more official.
Position yourself on a busy street and interview five people at
random. Begin
by asking, "Sir (or Madam), may I ask you a few questions?" They'll
reply with something like, "Okay," or "Do you want to know who
I'm going to vote for in the next election?" Ask them this one question:
"Why did you get up this
morning?" Most of your respondents will look at you as if they think
you're all the way out of it. So repeat the question, "Why did you get
up
this morning?" Chances are the person will
reply with, "Well, I had
to go to work." Then ask, "Why did you have to
go to
work?" The respondent will likely
reply with something like,
"Well, I gotta eat." Next, ask, "Why do you have to
eat?" At this
point, the other person will look at you as if you really are loco and
say
something like, "Well, so I can live." Then as the real eye-opener,
ask, "Why do you have to
live?" The other person will think a second or two and then reply with,
"So I can get up tomorrow morning and go to work." The masses of people get up so
they can go to work so they
can earn a living so they can go to work so they can earn a living so
they can
go to work… Doesn't that say something
disturbing about society? Now
success-oriented people get up in the morning so they can do something
that
carries them upward, not downward or sideways. They get up to enjoy
life, meet
interesting people, earn more money, do more with and for those they
love, and
help others to achieve. It is extraordinarily important
that we know where we want
to go. Getting up for sixteen hours so we can afford to sleep eight
hours is
not the good life. Yet for tens of millions of people, that is their
reason for
being. (c)
How
do I get where I want to go? Now I don't think you're like
the people described in the street
interview or you wouldn't be reading this book. Assuming you have a fix
on
where you want to go, the next question is, "How do I get there?"
Each of us is unique and each of us has different goals. But there are
three
guidelines that, if followed, will propel us into the orbit we
want. First, get the best possible
training and
experience to qualify you for what you want to do. If you want to
become a
great salesperson, for example, get a job where you'll receive
top-notch
instruction and guided experience. Or if you want to become a
computer expert,
real-estate appraiser, or psychologist, affiliate with an organization
where you
will learn the ins and outs of your profession. Affiliate with a
second-class
organization and you'll learn second-class methods and procedures.
(Later in
the book, specific techniques are suggested for selecting a mentor
— and
everyone needs one.) Second, be willing to sacrifice
and then sacrifice some
more. One thing all achievers have in common is the willingness to
sacrifice in
order to achieve goals. A friend of mine is a real-estate broker. One
afternoon, he and I talked about how he got to the top of his
profession. "It wasn't easy," he explained,
"but I did
have sense enough early in my career to do what you suggested. I got a
job with
a very reputable real-estate firm, straight commission, of course. But
the
going was really tough. The first year I made in commissions just about
a third
what I would have earned in a corporate administrative job. But
somehow, I was
determined to hang on. I like real estate." "Well, you certainly have it
made now", I said. "What happened?" "Oh, a lot more bitter times
lay ahead," he
replied. "I began to learn from my mistakes and I got some
excellent
coaching. And the commissions began to build fast. Then, almost
suddenly, the
real-estate market crashed. Because of high interest rates, lack of
cash, and a
fear psychology, my income dropped seventy-five percent. And it stayed
down for
three years. But during that time, while other agents dropped out of
the
business like flies, I kept working my clientele. I let them know I was
trying
my best to sell their properties. "Finally, the recession ended
and a
real-estate boom developed and my sales skyrocketed. You see, by
making a lot
of sacrifices during the real-estate recession, I had earned very
little money,
but I created an enormous amount of what I call 'confidence capital.' The real-estate developers I had worked with
when times were bad believed in me, and now I'm reaping the rewards.
Last year
I earned over two hundred thousand dollars in commissions." Getting good advice and making
sacrifices pay off. Step 2:
Dream in specifics, not generalities. Once we know who we are, where
we want to go, and how to get
there, the next step is to get specific about what we want. Typically,
people
state their dreams like this: "I'd like to make a lot of money," or
"I'd like to have a better job," or "I'd like to have a business
of my own and be my own boss." The problem with these dreams is that
they
are far too general. How much is "a lot of money"? What is a
"better job"? Or what kind of "business" do you want? People who
phrase their dreams in specifics have an infinitely greater chance of
reaching
them than people who have only vague ideas of what they want. So, if
you want
to earn more money, state precisely how much you plan to earn and by
what date.
If your goal is a better job, write out a detailed description of the
job you
want. And if your dream is a business of your own, describe what kind
of
business it will be and when you will start it. Most
people are wishers. Be a creative dreamer instead—someone who
knows what,
precisely what, he or she wants. Step 3: Set a time frame, for
your dream fulfillment. This dream-fulfillment
requirement was
suggested in Step 2. But let me elaborate just a bit. It is a fact that
people
work more efficiently and faster when they impose deadlines or a
timetable on
what they do. Some time ago, I knew two well-educated young men who had
considerable expertise in computer-systems design. They decided they
would open
a consulting firm and sell their services to businesses too small to
design
their own systems. Every weekend for a year they planned their
future
business. They continued planning for a second year, and a third year.
By this
time, they finally concluded there was too much competition, so
they'd better
give up the idea of their own consulting firm. Imagine
how different the result would likely have been if they had agreed at
the
outset, "We'll spend our weekends planning for one year (or six
months),
and then we'll open our business." Keep in
mind that as Disraeli said, "Life is too short to be little." If you
live until age 75, you will have spent only 27,391 days, 3,910 weeks,
or 912
months on this earth. Life is too short to waste. Dreams are fulfilled
only
through action, not through endless planning to take action. Step 4:
Visualize the dream as already attained. A young friend of mine who held
a beginning management job
with an airline shared with me his dream and what he's doing to fulfill
it. "I
know I'm going to make it into senior management in ten years. No one I
know at
my level is working harder or is smarter or has more desire than I to
make it
to the top. But I'm doing something else to make sure my wife and I and
our two
little kids enjoy the really good life." "I'm
curious," I said. "It seems like you're on the right track. But what
else are you doing to achieve the good life?" "I'll
tell you," he replied. "My extra encouragement is to go a little out
of the way once or twice a week on my way to work. I drive through an
extra-fine residential area where the homes are large and
custom-designed,
where the lots are at least two acres, and the neighborhood is
nearly perfect. "Then I do something else," he
added. "I ask
myself, how do these people afford to
live in such beautiful, exclusive homes?" "What
kinds of answers do you get?" I asked. "Well,"
my friend answered, "some of these people were born into wealth. But
most
of them, I've learned, made it on their own. Like you say, they had a
big dream
and made it come true, I've got a big dream, too, and I'm going to make
it come
true." There are
many ways to visualize a dream. If the dream is a specific income,
paste the
amount on the steering wheel of your car or on the bathroom mirror —
any place
that you'll be reminded of it several times a day. Or, when you're
alone, say
out loud — again, several times a day, "This year I will earn
______
dollars." Do these things and gradually your subconscious, that
mysterious, all-powerful part of your mental apparatus, will guide you
to your
dream achievement. Step 5:
Make a total commitment to your dream. There is a psychological law,
poorly understood and seldom applied,
that says in effect that nothing can stop the totally committed
individual from
achieving carefully thought-out goals. Translated, this law means that
if you
are totally determined, willing to make all needed sacrifices, and
keep your
mind on winning the objective, you will achieve your goal. Most of us
have heard losing football coaches explain after the game, "I guess we
weren't up [totally committed] to win today," or "Frankly, we
weren't in condition today [the team didn't make the necessary
sacrifices in
training last week] to win." Some feel the decisive battle
of World War II was one in which the
United States did not participate. That battle was the sinking of the
German
battleship Bismarck. The British naval commanders "knew"
they
could not sink this huge, new, all-powerful ship. But Prime Minister
Churchill
was totally committed. He issued the order, "Sink the Bismarck." And the Bismarck was
sunk. Nothing,
absolutely nothing, can stop the totally committed will. How to
Profit Most from: The Magic of Getting What You Want Let me
commend you for reading this chapter. It tells a lot about you. It says
you're
tired of less than the best — that you want more of the good things —
more
money, wealth, influence and happiness. The fact that you're reading
this book
suggests that you want to move upward faster, with less wasted
effort and
fewer mistakes. Those are great goals and very few people have them.
Now, to
maximize your experience using The Magic of Getting What You Want, follow
these four suggestions. 1. Read
the entire book as quickly as you can. Read it in two or three evenings
or on a
weekend. This will give you a feel for the philosophy of thinking more.
It will
serve as an overall orientation session to an old, yet brand-new
concept for
achievement and satisfaction. Immediately, as you read the
principles and the
examples that explain them, you will begin to see what
differentiates the
successful from the less-than-successful people. 2. Next,
spend a week slowly and carefully rereading each chapter. Make notes.
Underline
concepts and guidelines that have special application to you. 3.
Encourage others close to you, members of your family, your special
friends,
and perhaps your work associates to join you in discussing The
Magic of
Getting What You Want. You may want to spend an occasional evening
or
weekend holding a group discussion about the concepts presented. 4. Finally, and very important,
apply the guidelines at work, in
the home, and in all social situations. See for yourself how they do
work
wonders in making for more successful living. Practice the guidelines
until
they become habits. In a
nutshell, put these concepts to work: • Thinking
more is your key to personal prosperity and enjoyment. • Decide
now to go for your own Utopia and enjoy the best this life offers. • Write
your own obituary. See where the status quo will take you. • Decide
to scale up, not scale down. • Solve
budget problems by discovering how to earn more, not cut back. • Avoid
these Dream Destroyers: a) You don't have enough
education. b) You lack capital. c) You've got to be "realistic." d) The field is overcrowded. e) You don't have the time. f) The economy is bad. •
Seek out Dream Builders. Avoid Dream Destroyers. • Use
these five keys for creative dreaming: a) Know who you are, where you
want to go, and learn how to get where you
want to go. b) Dream in specifics, not
generalities. c) Set a deadline for dream
fulfillment. d) Visualize the dream as
already attained. e) Make a total commitment to your dream.
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