Chapter 1
DISCOVER YOURSELF
Is there a miracle about you?
That is
not a foolish question. It needs an answer. If a moment is taken to
consider
the question carefully there will come to anyone's mind the recognition
that,
yes, there is something very close to evidence of a miracle in a human
being,
if not proof positive. The unfulfilled possibilities in a human
organism
strongly suggest a greater extension of our ability to express life
than we
have yet fully shown. There are many other indications that there are
ways of
solving man's inner problems if we can be persuaded to contribute some
of our
time to acquiring knowledge about how to use them for our own benefit.
How many of us have yielded
ourselves
to a careful estimation of what our thoughts actually mean and do to us
and to
life? Are they cheerful or gloomy? Generous or stingy? Do they
contribute to
health by their relaxed faith in life or get us so uptight that the
blood
cannot flow comfort-ably, the breath does not feel free, a cold grips
the
respiratory system? It is not too hard to fill out the list.
Psychology has delved into a
study of human reaction from numerous
angles. But in listing the extraordinary reach of man's endowments the
larger
number of researchers have cautiously skirted the greatest promise of
all in a
human being's deeper urges: the knowledge and foresight of the human
soul.
What, for instance, keeps a person out of jail? A combination of the
meanings
and realizations of certain of his attributes: his intelligence, his
power of
choice, and the realization of his soul. The latter element especially
because
it is the most keenly aware of values. It can feel most convincingly
the
dreadfulness of being jailed and the unfairness of subjecting
humanity to the
crushing load of trying to find an answer to the destructive effect of
evil
action on life and everybody in it.
Understanding of man's full
nature and
capacities is catching up with the effectiveness of scientific
discoveries.
However, there is now some chance of outdistancing the remarkable
contributions
of science. Though the task will not be easy for the goal in view, of
freeing
the human soul from the bondage of a negatively conditioned ego, it has
as its
main hurdle, not inanimate matter to deal with as the scientist does,
but
millions of individual souls; and all of these must consent to
assist in
trying to discover the best and most rewarding use of their own
individual
natures.
Will they be willing to do
this? Quite
possibly if the advantage to themselves, by liberation from
the heavy
weight of neurosis, becomes clear enough for them to see that there is
an
incalculable gain for them, and for the world. For we badly need to
know what
we are dealing with when faced with the negative power of emotion and
the
misplaced ingenuity of the ego.
Simplification can often bring
to
light the kernel of even complex tasks. It is being proved that people
can do
themselves a world of good by choosing two particular factors from the
psychology of humanity, and getting more useful understanding of the
special
significance in their relationship. The first of these two factors is
emotion
and its wonderful and dreadful power; and the second is the ego, which
has so
many remarkable methods and techniques to make a good life for the
individual.
However, the ego spoils much of the value of its own offerings because
we have
not as yet much more than a smattering of knowledge of what trouble the
ego can
cause. If a person refuses to learn to distinguish between the sound
types of
assistance his ego can provide and the distorted and often neurotic
varieties
it too often offers instead, he can be constantly led into errors, from
silly
gaffs to terrible trouble.
Human consciousness is
continually
pelted with negative suggestions, prompting foolish or dangerous
attitudes and
reactions in all of us. These poor choices of attitude and reaction can
settle
themselves in the ego as habits of mind with their troublesome results.
Being
what we might aptly call the realistic representative of human
consciousness,
whose main job is to concern itself with our everyday needs, the ego is
called
upon to guide us in our ordinary choices and run-of-the-mill habits.
But it is
forever subservient to the emotions. It has its own share of
intelligence, and
a good share. But it does not have a chance against an aroused burst of
rage,
for instance, unless the door of consciousness and the processes of the
mind
are kept open for contact with the higher elements of the mind and
spirit.
The factor of instinct has many
forms
of awareness of truths that can produce well-being for the individual.
That is
its prime contribution to the safety of human life. It attracts our
attention to
ways and means of protecting our lives and even of prodding the
imagination to
bring to mind methods and ingenuities that finally started the race off
on its
incredible journey toward today's technology.
This again brings us back to
the miraculous promise involved in human
nature. Nothing seems to have been left out that would be needed in the
development of a superior race. Two things were left in that are so
powerful,
so developmental in either direction, good or bad, that we are not
having too
easy a time to get them in-hand and to see to it that they stop
interfering
with our enjoyment and success. We need to discover how to turn this
Niagara of
force toward the improved use of every one of the gifts that have been
freely
handed to us. We refer of course to the giant power, emotion, and to
the clever
ingenuity of the ego.
So there cannot be much doubt
about
the value of knowing more about what place emotion holds in life, and
whether
or not we should give it more space in stretching our concept of
education. No
aspect of life as we know it could be more dangerous to neglect. For
without
our being fully aware of it, emotion is a powerhouse without equal to
develop
our miraculous talents for the increased enjoyment of all, or for
destroying
each other. The ego has an extraordinary facility for dealing with the
more
immediate problems of life and naturally needs specific instruction not
to
waste its efforts on questionable tricks, when training for success is
what it
needs.
After all, why deny that we are
more
important to ourselves than anything else in existence? It is not only
true,
but necessary. We should be attentive to our value or we could make a
worse
botch of our lives than we do. For what we might carelessly believe to
be mere
self-love is mainly self-protection, necessary to a race if it is to
succeed
and evolve. A first need, however, would be to work out how we can
balance this
primal interest in the self with assured interest in the other fellow.
For he,
according to our own admission of the necessity for self-regard, must
be
excused for also being interested in his own needs and protections.
It was here that the thought of
man as
a miracle suggested itself. For a miracle can adjust to any need, if
that need
is understandable. It is not too hard to see that going no further than
the
human body we are in the presence of a miracle. With all the wealth of
our
factual data, which, put together, explains the human body, there
remains a
mystery that in all fairness we must admit suggests the realm of the
miraculous.
Why does the heart go on and
on? How
is it that the body can separate the elements of food and distribute
them where
they are needed? How does medicine get to where the flesh is suffering
and come
up with a surcease from pain? We blandly accept it all, and then
proceed to
abuse the body by neglecting to take charge of our emotions.
In this day of overemphasis on
the
study of matter we should reinstate interest in the pursuit of
knowledge about
our inward selves. We need a more particular kind of wisdom in relation
to
self-understanding: a workable awareness of the meaning of our
spontaneous,
sometimes very disturbing reactions, and those of others. We should
begin to
become more adept at recognizing the difference between natural human
identity
reactions and the kind of reactions that are contaminated by emotional
experiences causing neurotic feelings which then begin to settle into
neurotic
habits.
For example, self-pity is a
neurotic
feeling. How could it be normal when it is declaring that an
individual, whose
main drive is to increase 'the expansion, the development, of his own
relation
to life, is a pitiful, abused being? Such an attitude makes no sense,
we say.
But it could do so, could it not, if it were caused by accusations made
by
adults in whose power a child, as well as he can judge, finds himself
to be
placed? He is in no position to win over an adult, not until he is well
grown,
and has picked up some basic knowledge of the what-and-why of such a
common
human reaction as self-pity.
It is detrimental to an extreme
degree, for a person's experience can be wasted in a kind of mourning
over his
estimation of his own value. This can lay waste his efforts to gain
self-expansion
by his arbitrary disbelief in that possibility for him.
It will help in reducing the
friction
that is sure to follow the actions of disorderly emotions if we realize
that
neurosis is much like an inflamed sore irritating the individual. It
can be
cured, and it will become easier to maintain patience and hope for its
cure if
we will take this fact as a worthwhile belief. Average neurosis can be
self-treated and cured if a person is willing to come to an
understanding of a
few fairly simple principles.
If anyone wanting to be free of
his
neurotic reactions, taken on in ignorance of how neurotic "infection"
starts, will accept a paramount principle that life is a process which
must be learned, he can win a good life. He can vastly improve
his emotional
experiences if
he is willing to learn life instead of blundering from mistake to
mistake
because he will not study his own reactions and interpret them in
relation to
the increasing knowledge of their meanings. Only by building and, when
necessary, rebuilding our habits to obtain constructive help from
our handling
of life can we even ask to attain self-expansion. For in the end it is
nothing
more or less than self-mastery.
It seems that at this point we
have
put a finger on the factor, the activity, and the most enigmatic
influence of
the ego. For only the ego seems to represent man against God; or it may
be more
exact to say, man in competition with God. The ego is rightfully
dedicated to
serving humanity's central drive, which is self-expansion — the
development of
the human being and his enjoyment of life. But what an interesting
outcome it
could be if the emotions were freed from their ignorant urge to hold
life in
neurotic stalemate. By understanding and discarding neurotic habits we
could
prevent neurosis from endlessly holding emotion in static servitude to
its own
lower levels of fury, terror, lust, and rank inquisitiveness.
<>An inquiry in this
direction might
offer some relief to man's labored musings on who he is and what he is
for. For
instance, what was in the mind of the one who declared that
"man
shall not live by bread alone"? Certainly this declaration must
have been
inspired by a belief that man had further interests than just to fill
his
stomach and glut his sensations.
If we have any claim to a touch
or
more of charm, it will come from the quantity and quality of our
emotions and
how we express them. The very heaven or hell of our life experience is
molded
from our emotional reactions. If we cannot use, and not abuse, the
force of basic
rage, the higher expression of which is courage, we will be apt to be
in hot
water a large proportion of our life. If we get a notion that fear is
just a
discomfort, or maybe a disgrace, we will perhaps never be able to train
it into
the caution and good judgment it is capable of offering us. If we
cannot raise
lust to its more glorious expression of love we can, according to
present
statistics, end up with a contagion which could deplete the power of
our
miracle of a body to stave off physical illness. And if we
disrespectfully
disregard the strength of wonder, which is interest in life and a
desire to
learn, we have put a sadly obstructive blockage on the chance we have
of
enjoying the life we purport to be interested in.
In this exciting age we need to
venture more deeply and widely into the invisible world of what we
passionately
feel but cannot physically see—the realm of emotion where the fate of
our lives
is largely decided.
We have not yet accepted on a
practical basis the fact that we can tell our emotions where to get off
when
they throw us into tizzies that shoot our blood pressure up, put our
digestion
out of order, and open us up to the contagion of the common cold. When
a
troublesome or dangerous emotional response is allowed to happen
over and
over, we are helpless to prevent its consequences. This unhappy fact is
a
natural element of the human equation. But new habits can be formed to
take the
place of old ones to free us from this constant discomfort. Such new
habits can
fortify our power over our emotions and reduce the chance of their
having
unskilled power over us.
We are not going to tell you
that the
causes of the more explosive examples of this mastery of an individual
by his
own emotions will conveniently disappear overnight. But we will freely
say that
those who have experienced their first victory over the battle of the
ego get a
sense of triumph that is apt to be larger than expected. This area of
success
ultimately brings more of a thrill than many objective victories.
As a matter of fact, this type
of
winning over our emotions, which over and over trap us into reactions
that
reveal ineptitude rather than self-mastery, is proof of that very
thing:
self-mastery. And the latter is as good as money in that realm where
hard cash
will get you nowhere. In still too large a number of us rage, fear,
lust, and
prying meddlesomeness are still much too eager to burst out and start
either
confusion or a battle of some kind.
Rather than aimlessly asking
the
doubtfully productive question, "What can I do to help?" we can
really contribute something by taking a good look at how well we handle
our own
emotions. That is really the hopeful area where we can give some
genuine help
to struggling life. And as said above, success in this effort can carry
a
thrill that once fairly evaluated can surpass the temporary victories
of
objective life.
Knowledge is one of the most
precious
commodities anyone, any race, any nation can own. But because of its
very
importance and the remarkable and varied capacities the human race
displays, it
is too easy to grab a bit of important knowledge here, another bit
there, and
to find ourselves confused by their multitude and the difficulties
involved in
relating them.
The aim of this book then is to
take
up three of the central factors in everybody's life. The first is about
what is
called the ego, the clever, very active agent in human consciousness
which is
gifted with the skills necessary to keep the various aspects of this
complicated
organism related to each other, aware of each other, and all working
together
to attain that deeply desired goal of self-expansion. For that
universal desire
means the development into the most successful use of every talent and
purpose
the individual may be endowed with.
Second is the powerful, dynamic
engine
of emotion, which keeps the whole accumulation of abilities running,
colors the
many varieties of personality, and with whatever mistakes it makes is
still the
element that makes life interesting and worth living.
And last, but by no means
least, is
the capacity to think functionally; that is, to hang onto the coattails
of the
darting ego and bring a species of order into its electric activity.
Thinking
functionally, being spontaneously able to apply more awareness of how
cause and
effect relate to each other in our lives, could untangle many tight
knots
humanity is struggling to untie.
Function is a peculiarly
important
word, but it has not, until recently perhaps, been thought of in its
specific
value to the thinking of the average person. It has long been used by
the
scientists, mathematicians, and those who expect to use their minds to
their
best possible function to help them in their chosen work. As a matter
of fact,
effective function can be used to excellent effect by average people if
they
can brush off their awe of the specially trained mind and recognize
that all of
us can develop a better functioning of our thought processes, with
added
benefit to our lives.
A mind that functions well is a
gift
straight from heaven, but because we are miracles, over-abundantly
gifted by
Life, there are other powerful elements in humanity that must be
brought into
as good final function as the mind. The most disturbingly powerful of
all is
human emotion. It is of a different nature than the mind, but the
latter must
cooperate with it smoothly if we are to escape from that demon
conflict,
emotional and mental strife, which can sap the strength of a Hercules.
How shall we do it? Not
certainly by
refusing to consider the matter. We can learn a great deal about
ourselves: how
our minds and emotions work; what causes them to act contrary to our
ultimate
best interests; how to recognize the mishandling of emotion which is
sure to
end in trouble that could be avoided. And, perhaps, most of all how to
react to
an untrained ego which too often seeks personal self-expansion by any
means, at
any price.